mardi 23 août 2016

How To Get Kids To Listen To You

By Carolyn Long


Children don't always hear what you have to say, and this can be extremely frustrating for the average parents. However, one has to realize that they are not ignoring you on purpose. They are developing and they are adapting to their surroundings. Parents have to treat them as a child and learn more about how to get kids to listen.

Some people become annoyed when their kids are not listening to them. They may repeat themselves or raise their voice. This is not the right approach because it can create an element of fear within the child. The parent will also become more impatient. It is almost like you think your child is ignoring you, but this is not the case.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

You have to connect with them so that they don't feel intimidated. When they are very busy with something, an order or command will often go through one ear and out the other. You need to be able to connect with the. This will also create a stronger bond. You can do this by touching them, and making eye contact.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

Of course, there are also kids who have a tough time listening in general because of something like autism. When they are busy with something that are completely focused, and you may not even be able to distract them. Parents need to learn how to talk to a child like this. It is not easy and you may become impatient at time, so this is something you have to keep under control.

Some children who battle hearing what you have to say, may also be suffering from something like autism or attention deficit disorder. If you find that they are switched off and you really can't get into their space, it may be a good idea to consult with a family doctor. They will refer you to a pediatrician. Parents need to handle the situation with a lot of love and encouragement, because it is not easy.




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